?`s and ANNEswers

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Rosemary

Today is Rosemary Balest Bryant’s birthday, and I wish her the best.

Rosemary and I were great friends in high school in Little Rock, Arkansas, during the time then-Governor Orville Faubus stood in the doorway of Central High School and defied federal troops on the issue of integration. As a result, the city’s entire school system was shut down for a year.

Rosemary and I were not directly affected by this, because we attended the local Catholic high school and were not subject to the integration laws of the government. It’s ironic to note, however, that our school was as lily white as the public schools. The Catholic Bishop in charge of such things would never have considered allowing a Negro student to attend Mount St. Mary’s Academy in the early nineteen-sixties.

But Rosemary and I went to school and studied geometry with Sister Marceline who later left the convent and history with Sister Ita who stayed with the job. We collaborated about boyfriends and Friday night dances and homework during the three minute change-over from class to class. We collaborated even more on the same subjects during evening telephone conversations. Truthfully, I knew when she would sneeze.

Years passed, and we went our separate ways. But every now and then we touched base. Because of this, I attended the wedding of her daughter several years back and was flattered that she introduced me to everyone as her best friend from high school. Earl and I even sat at her table.

I haven’t seen Rosemary since, and our correspondence has degenerated into a thank you after the birthday email. Then nothing until the following year. No matter, I’ll still touch base today; because the thing of it is, it’s important to keep contact with people in your past that you had a serious connection with. The connection might not be the same now as it was then, but holding on to it is essential because it’s holding on to your history. And, as we age, there are fewer and fewer people who remember us back when.

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Two for the Record

A few days ago I wrote about my stack of unfinished books, attributing my inability to completing them to “Reader’s Block.” Then I became inspired, maybe because I called myself out in public.

What I mean by ‘inspired’ is that since then I’ve finished one novel and one non-fiction book. It feels good. I also think I’ve realized a way to get through the other unfinished works too. The trick is to skim.

To date, I’ve always read every single word in a book, even when I found each tedious. I felt I owed it to the author, because I would want a reader to do the same for my work. So what if it bogged me down and made the reading feel obligatory.

But, in the two books I finished, I tried skimming over the paragraphs I wasn’t interested in. I didn’t try to analyze every sentence for its dynamics or how it fit into the whole. Instead I gave myself permission to read the parts of the book I wanted and forego the rest. And it worked.

I don’t feel I lost any of the essentials of either book. I understood the story behind the novel and I learned much from the non-fiction. So maybe because I write, and have written for a living, I place too much value on the words, the sentences, the structure. Perhaps instead I need to approach my pleasure reading as a novice would. Just looking for the good parts and ignoring the rest.

I plan to implement this approach with the other books that are unfinished on my bookcase. I hope it will offer a good sampling of how to get more fun from pleasure reading in the future. And, with this, the corollary is that I don’t expect my readers to pour over every word as if each were golden.

Essentially, I just need to chill out when it comes to reading.

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Obits Pix

Sometimes I’m caught off guard when I read the local obituaries. It’s not the words that puzzle me; it’s the photo that often accompanies them.

Case in point: A woman, eighty-eight years old, passed away recently; but the photograph that accompanied the synopsis of her life revealed a beautiful young woman. The only thing that belied her age was the hair-do, because it was something out of the nineteen thirties.

Obviously this woman may have resembled the younger photo in her later years, but she would have been an older version of it. Most likely with a more updated hair-do. And this made me wonder why a family would provide a particular photo for an obituary.

Perhaps it was a favorite photo either of the deceased or of someone in the immediate family. Perhaps it was what they found on the spur of the moment in course of their grief. Perhaps she had refused to have her photo taken in later years, so there was no current picture to provide.

I’ll never know the real reason behind every youthful photo that accompanies the obituary of someone in his or her seventies or eighties. But I will always be curious as to why the particular pose was chosen.

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El Rodeo

It’s one of Benton Harbor’s best kept secrets; judging from its storefront appearance, maybe the owners want to keep it that way. But this weekend, El Rodeo took the gold medal for dining at a Mexican restaurant.

Earl usually doesn’t like Mexican food; he claims that no matter what you order it all tastes the same. Why he suggested we go there for dinner still remains a mystery. Nevertheless, we found ourselves ordering Margaritas at El Rodeo a couple nights ago.

Our waiter’s command of the English language was limited, so we didn’t get the type of Margarita we thought we’d ordered. But that was a good thing, as the ones we were served were absolutely delicious. We had the 12-ounce size, but El Rodeo also offers a 24-ounce and a bathtub 46-ounce. How you get into your car and drive after this last one is probably a strong argument for the designated driver.

Anyway, we drank our Margs and ordered our food and waited until it appeared on plates so hot we couldn’t touch them. I stared at my tacos while Earl prodded his chimichangas with a fork. When their heat subsided, we dug in; and I must say the food was excellent. The rice was fresh; the refried beans had no canned taste; the meat was juicy.

Maybe you like your Mexican food hot, as in spicy. I think the only way you’d like it at El Rodeo is to slather your entrйe with the hot sauces on the table. But that is a viable option. At least underneath you have basic good food. I don’t bill myself as a restaurant critic, but the next time Earl gets a hunger for Mexican food, I know where to go.

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Ice Skating for Fun

For the past two weeks we’ve watched the Olympics in Turino, Italy; and it’s all been about performing – or not performing — for a medal. Last night, the champions of figure skating’s various events put on an exhibition of what they do when they’re on their own ice time.

This was no competition, so there were no judges. Nor were there any medals in the offing. Rather, it was entertainment, pure and simple. Bronze medalist Irina Slutskuya skated to American music; American Johnny Weir skated to Sinatra’s “My Way,” which – if you know anything about Weir – was classically appropriate.

No other sport in the Olympics offers a free exhibition at the end; I think figure skating does so because, of all the sports, it is the most akin to dancing and the interpretation that accompanies a dance. I also think it is a way of alerting judges of what might be acceptable down the road, as the exhibition routines seem to push boundaries and be ahead of what the judges currently consider worthy of medal recognition.

The exhibition performances were wonderful, and I think it was because they were devoid of this tension of competition. Which makes me wonder if we actually see the best that our athletes have to offer when they’re penalized a point here and a point there for working so hard. Last night’s exhibitors worked just as hard and were just as graceful, maybe even more. They might not have a medal to show for it, but they certainly won my heart.

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Sayings

At heart I’m a romantic. Brilliant sunsets and well-performed piano concertos and mushy Valentine’s Day cards and unexpected kisses unravel me. I become toast.

At the same time, I’m prone to the hokey saying for inspiration in my everyday life. My home is filled with them, each carefully displayed so as not to intrude on the turf of another. Each also follows certain themes.

In our laundry room we have two pillows above the cupboards that read: “A fisherman lives here with the catch of his life” and “Life is a little sweeter in a home beside the water.” The rest of the space is occupied with bottles in the shape of fish, various books on fishing, photos of Earl fishing, and one bookend shaped like a fly-rod.

In the kitchen area, you can read: “Maybe it’s not Home Sweet Home. Adjust” and “Martha Stewart doesn’t live here.” Then there is “Our gourmet kitchen is closed; try our famous peanut butter and jelly sandwich.” This last plaque was created by my son, Kevin, in seventh grade shop about twenty-five years ago; and it has hung in every one of my kitchens ever since. In future years it will attain the status of heirloom.

Then there are the two notes attached to my office door. One says “Life is too important to be taken seriously,” something with which I totally agree. The other says, “Life is not a dress rehearsal,” again something that I agree with. The trick is to combine the sentiment of these two so that you think, “Life is not a dress rehearsal, but I don’t have to be perfect in either the first or second act.”

Earl and I recently bought two new plaques, and I mounted one today over the closet door in his office. It screams “Oh, Behave.” Which, if you know Earl, is right on. The other plaque is more serious and says: “Motto To Live By: Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming “WOO HOO, what a ride!”

I must find a place of honor for this one.

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Port Purchase

I’m confused.

For the past five years President Bush has said, time and again, that our national security is of the utmost importance. He has pledged troops to battle on that account; he has limited some of our freedoms too. He has supported holding foreign prisoners indefinitely in such places as Guantanamo Bay in Cuba and has piqued the ire of the United Nations for doing so. Yet, he persists.

But now comes a state-owned business of the United Arab Emirates, one of those small but rich oil countries in the Middle East. This company is purchasing, with Bush’s public approval, six ports of entry into the United States at the cost of 6.8 billion dollars. These ports include New York, New Jersey, Baltimore, New Orleans, Miami, and Philadelphia.

Wait a minute! Aren’t these some of the most populous areas of our country? Could there be an ulterior motive for the purchase? I’m not usually an alarmist, but when both sides of the political fence — Democrats and Republicans alike — urge our President to hold off on the purchase, I think it is a good idea. Yet Bush has said he will encourage the passage of the purchase and veto any resistance against it. He believes it is in our country’s best interest.

I am not suggesting for one minute that the company eager to purchase these ports is into sabotage. Rather I am suggesting that something, other than our nation’s security, is motivating the President. I don’t know what it is, but it makes for a rather inconsistent policy on his part. And it diminishes his cause in the future when he pleads for national security at all cost.

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Reader’s Block

They are stacked in their own neat little corner, almost like children who have been given a time out. And what these ten books have in common is that I’ve read approximately two/thirds of each and then set the work aside.

Some of the books are fiction; others offer advice on the writing life. Some were recommended by friends and family who know my interests, while others called to me in bookstores. All remain unfinished, even though none is boring or uninteresting.

The truth is I have chronic reader’s block, a malady that’s had me in its thrall for about a year now, maybe longer. I’ve never seen it defined in a dictionary, so I’ll give the problem credence by defining it as “that condition where a previously avid reader begins a new book, eagerly moves through enough of it to determine if she wants to finish it, decides it’s worthy, but then becomes derailed as she gets closer to the end.”

Reader’s block doesn’t prevent me from starting another new book; it just keeps me from finishing any. So, in the past year, I’ve read only one book, a novel, from start to finish. The others sit waiting patiently for me to return, while I’ve run out of bookmarks and have taken to reading only the daily newspaper and contemporary magazines whose articles don’t require lengthy periods of concentration.

I suspect some of my closer acquaintances might say, “Yes, Anne, but you always read the last page of a book first.” And I would have to admit it is true. “Ah,” they’d probably nod, “doesn’t that ruin it for you? Doesn’t it make the book less interesting?”

I’ve done this all my reading life. It does change the perspective from which I read a book, but I was always capable of then going back to the beginning and reading to the last page in the usual fashion. So I don’t think reading the last page first is the root of my problem, but I don’t know what is. If anyone else out there has experienced reader’s block, I would appreciate hearing from them. Perhaps we could form a support group.

I sense my little stack of unfinished books is nodding its communal approval.

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Stonehenge

Stonehenge, that massive pile of carefully laid stones in the downlands of England, has been a source of speculation and admiration for generations. I remember first learning about it in some elementary school social studies class where the teacher hinted that the monument was originally built by druids.

Of course, she was wrong, just as those who claimed the Celts, the Romans, the Egyptians, and even King Arthur built it. The truth is nobody really knows who the master planners were. What is accurate is that Stonehenge took extraordinary effort to create almost five thousand years ago, and it is presumed today that such effort was for a specific, perhaps religious, purpose.

I have always been intrigued with Stonehenge. As a student, photos of it in history books were sure to draw my attention. Perhaps that’s why, when I was arranging my preferences on my new computer, I chose the icon to be displayed on as my desktop whenever my files were all minimized or closed. I love looking at the circle of rough-hewn stones rising upward toward a swirling Van Gogh sky.

I visited Stonehenge only once, in the late nineteen eighties. At the time, I was surprised at how small the area was in real life and thought that photos of it had given a grander impression. Truthfully, they only did it justice. It’s not so much the size as the mood that strikes you.

I understand the years since my visit have been less than kind to Stonehenge. A big highway roars by now and a circus has set up its tent not far away. I’m not sure I’d want to go there. But I still admire those ancient stones and still get that feeling of awe every time I see my monitor’s desktop in repose.

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Headlines

The primary job of headlines in a newspaper is to entice the reader to read the entire article and to sum its contents in several words, in case the reader passes on. Good headlines usually include some double meaning or some relationship to a bigger picture than the story at stake.

Yesterday I read the headline, “Haze shrouds Turin”; and I smiled. Having graduated from a Catholic university, I knew too well that the Shroud of Turin was supposedly the burial cloth that covered Jesus Christ. I thought the headline was clever, although perhaps someone out there thinks it’s blasphemous.

Headline writers are a breed unto themselves. They don’t get any public recognition, but their best work makes for a better newspaper experience. Here are some of the clever headlines I read over the weekend.

“Deere takes a strong leap” covered a story about Deere and Co.’s recent profits. “Barbie figures large for Mattel” plays on the two meanings of the word ‘figures.’ “Thinking about the big picture” has to do with the revolution in hi-def TV. “You really feel gee forces in MazdaSpeed6” touts a new car. “Tut, tut: the great pyramids aren’t all in Egypt” is about oil companies and pyramid scams. You get the idea.

Not every headline is worth a chuckle, so for me the challenge is to read them all and quickly decide what I think is clever. Often, on the basis of the headline, I decide whether or not to read the story. It may be backing into my reading material, but I like to think I’m giving headline writers their secret due.

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